Ultimate Amore

How do you go about choosing the sex-toy(s) that is right for you and your lover? Before we get into specifics about which toy or toys might be suitable for you, there are a few questions you should ask yourself and/or partner.

• Intended Use: Who will be using the toy?
• Function: What do you want the toy to do for you?
• Styles: What do you want the toy to look like?

Intended Use

• Who will be using the toy? Is it for you alone, or do you hope to use it with a partner? Is your partner male or female? Are they familiar with adult toys, or are they comfortable with experimenting? Do you anticipate that they might be intimidated?
• If you plan to introduce a new sex toy to a partner, but you're unsure how they will react, you might want to look at "Introducing a Sex Toy to Your Partner".

Function

• What do you want the sex toy to do for you?
• Vibrators can be a good arousal stimulator, helping you achieve orgasm by yourself or with a partner, or simply to massage aching muscles. Do you enjoy deep, hard pressure and penetration? Maybe a dildo would be a good choice. Maybe you would prefer the sensual touch of external stimulation? Then maybe a vibrator would work best. Perhaps you would like a combination of the two. A good guide is to ask yourself what kind of stimulation you enjoy during sex with a partner. For example, do you like light/indirect or moderate/direct stimulation?

Styles

• Since sex toys come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors and styles, the next question you should ask yourself is what you want your toy to look like.
• Do you want your vibrator or dildo to look real? If so, there are several available in the "ultra-realistic" category that look exactly like a real penis. They are often formed from a cast, which was taken of a real penis. They are colored to look like a penis, and include all the veins and ridges a real penis would have. They are usually made from silicone or Cyberskin, which are the most realistic looking and feeling materials available.
• On the other side of the spectrum, there are vibrators and dildos that look nothing like a real penis. They may have a phallic shape, but can be brightly colored in all kinds of different shades. Instead of ridges and bumps, they have smooth shafts.
• Think about what would turn you on the most. Some people prefer the realistic adult toys, and some do not. It's just a matter of preference.